Discernation
So, hey, I want you to look at this very fine review of Black Halo by my good friends at Porno Kitsch.
It’s worth drawing attention to, just because with it, I’m noting that I don’t get a lot of gushing reviews (where are you gushers on my Amazon page, hm? HMMM?) But I’m kind of pleased about that, really. I take a lot of pride in the fact that my books seem to stimulate a lot of discussion about art, writing and the process of trying, rather than just a press release blurb and then a number of stars, puntos or strippers at the end (note: if you’re reading this, Porno Kitsch, you should start rating books in strippers).
Which led me to another issue: given the fact that I’m pumping this one, and given the fact that I’m rarely disappointed by a review that at least takes the time to discuss what happened and why it worked or it didn’t, why don’t I pimp more reviews? I hope you bloggers out there who have been nice enough to take the time to read it don’t think I’m ignoring you. It’s not you, baby, it’s me. I know I told you that when we broke up, and when I dated your sister, and when I set your house on fire, and that one time I accidentally shaved your cat, but…
…hang on.
Anyway, to let you in on a little secret: I didn’t handle reviews that well when I was first starting out. I wasn’t mentally prepared and it really didn’t occur to me that anyone would think I was anything less than fantastic. So when I got a couple of bad ones starting out, I got really discouraged, depressed and my mood was ruined for days. I eventually learned to stop reading them (it still sucks, it never stops sucking), but I only really was able to do that after rationally figuring things out for myself.
The fact is: reviews don’t change the art form. A good review will not make the story different than a bad one. If lots of people say the same thing (in which case, it’s usually also occurred to me), then I do look at it. But in the end, the story cannot be dictated. Not by blogs, not by reviews, not by Publisher’s Weekly and not even, really, by the author. At the risk of going all douche nouveau on you, I’ll conclude this by saying that one of the methods of keeping myself sane was to not too heavily invest in reviews.
That said, though, if you really wanted to talk about a review or wanted me to bring attention to it/your site, please feel free to let me know and we can set aside a whole dang blog post for it!
On this note, though, I feel I should weigh in on this little tidbit that’s been making the rounds in publishing.
I blush to admit, despite the fact that we’re in the same publishing house, I’ve never read Steph Swainston and I was only barely aware of her up until today when I read on Mark C. Newton’s blog that she was stepping out of the book-writing business. I’m not going to reply word-for-word, I’m not even going to repost what she said (because, like the gentle oxpecker bird, I sit upon the leathery back of the great, scaly alligator that is Mark C. Newton and peck the parasitic bacteria off his flesh to feed myself), but I am going to address it because it’s been on my mind.
Specifically, this bit:
“I don’t have a problem with fandom,” she says. “But I don’t think fans realise the pressure they put on authors. The very vocal ones can change an author’s next book, even an author’s career, by what they say on the internet. And writers are expected to engage and respond.” She pauses. “The internet is poison to authors.”
There’s been a lot of hithering and thithering about this, of course, as to whether she’s weak, nutty, wrong, right. I’m not prepared to suggest any of that, of course; she’s doing what works for her and she’s not comfortable with what’s going on in her career. It’s a totally sane, respectable and laudable idea to bow out of it.
That said, though, I do sympathize with her standing here and that’s what brings me back to the notion of internet engagement. It’s essential: it’s great for interacting with readers, it’s great for marketing yourself, it’s great for getting in touch with other people and getting to know authors. It’s also incredibly irritating: people are always talking about you, at you or some notion of you that they think they know. There is positive and negative, push and pull, yin and yang, Twi and La.
And I’m not sure I can separate them yet.
That might sound like crying over milk that is not only not spilled, but sitting in a golden goblet, but before Richard Dawkins tells me to quit whining, I feel I should point out that it’s pretty stressful. To me, it seems like being stuck between a rock and a hard place. On the one hand, you need to have the internet presence: the website, the response, the facebook, the clever, witty blog in which you swear a lot. But on the other hand, you need to have a thick skin, the fact that people can sometimes take a dump on you is just taken as granted and you can never violate the golden rule: don’t respond to criticism.
A lot of people tell me that it’s easy to grow that thick skin and just ignore the negative and embrace the positive. It might just be me, but I don’t think it’s actually that easy, because while it doesn’t blend together, it does tend to run into each other. Someone praising you might invoke someone else coming in and calling you a hack. Someone saying you have a good point might invoke someone else coming in and saying “NO HE A WHINY BABY.”
Because this is the internet. And it’s not really compartmentalized.
It’s like standing in a big room at a party. Most of the time, you’re having a lovely time. But occasionally, you feel a wet smack of someone slapping a fish against the back of your head. You turn around and there’s a guy with a bucketful of fish standing in the corner, staring at you. When you turn away, he smacks you with a fish again. The people you’re talking to are perturbed that your witty repartee is disrupted by getting smacked with a fish. You get hit again and then you pick up the fish and smack him back and then no one wants to talk to you because you smell like fish now. And then three other guys with fish show up: one starts smacking you out of solidarity, one starts smacking you because he assumes you’re into that now and the third starts smacking you with a fish because you’re not paying the proper respect to prose poetry.
Granted, these are never the fans and I severely disagree with Ms. Swainston that the fans are the burden. I feel if you don’t like talking to people, you’re probably not in the right line of work (which, apparently, she agrees with), but I certainly do sympathize with the fact that it can be difficult to separate the good from the bad and to have very little recourse once you do. It’s generally considered poor form to come out and bitch about a reviewer that didn’t like you or a guy who hates you (see fish theory) and, let’s be honest, it’s hard to feel bad for a person whose chief issue is having too much attention.
There’s talking to other authors, of course (and this is an astonishingly supportive community for those purposes), but there’s only so much they can do. Everyone’s issues are different and they have problems of their own.
And yet…I can’t help but feel that it is kind of part of the territory. You do have to grow a thicker hide, you do have to get tougher, you do occasionally have to eat some doo doo with a smile. It’s tough, and I sympathize with that wholly, but it’s still something that kind of has to be done. Does the negativity and irritation ever stop sucking? No. But does it frequently pale in comparison with the people who love the work and, most importantly, the fact that you are writing, doing what you love for a living?
Hell yes.
And that’s why I’m certainly not asking for sympathy. I’m not weeping over what a hard life an author has. I’m not even sure I agree with the fact that receiving negative attention and finding it overwhelming is a good reason for ducking out. But I do understand. I do sympathize. I do wish Ms. Swainston the best of luck with whatever happens next for her.
But for now, it’s still a pretty sweet life.